Power + Money
So if it’s not money that we fear but power, how are we to move through this? How do we hold our fair share of economic authority if it is the power inherent in it that terrifies us?
What is the risk? Women tell me that it stresses them out. Power doesn’t make them feel powerful, it makes them feel unsafe. We know we are dealing here with ideas lodged in the deepest part of our being—the invisible domains that call the shots and lead us to places that confound us. This is no longer a discussion based on rationality or political correctness. What we are truly experiencing here that prevents us from taking charge of our life? Taking our place at the decision making tables of society?
Something deep and visceral seems to hold us back. A sense of danger so primal, so barely discernible at a conscious level that it keeps us in its grip by its very unknowingness. It is the inviolable, invisible force that knows us better than we know ourselves.
So where does this come from and how will we eradicate it?
As I see it, there are two sources of this fear and reluctance to hold power. The stuff we are born with and the stuff we accumulate along the way. According to the emerging research in the field of epigenetics we are born holding patterns of experiences from our ancestors at a cellular level. This explains why the children of holocaust victims and survivors, or prisoners of war, have psychological and physical cellular composition and behavioural responses that cannot just be explained by their environment.
We are a combination of neurology, biology and gender. Men’s and women’s brains are wired differently. Hormones affect us differently. There are beliefs that emerge from our own experiences, the messages of our families and the influence of the culture that we were raised into. Yet, many of our ideas are formed below our levels of awareness or even consciousness. That is not a bad thing. It is just that we have to accept that it can be complicated and challenging. What it is not, is impossible to understand and overcome.
With a willingness to become deep sea divers pursing ocean bound treasure we can look inside and begin the process of bringing up the “loot.” We can catalogue it and manage it. The sheer act of exploration is exhilarating and empowering - far more so than holding on to nameless terrors and a reticence to expand that does not serve us or our world.
We will have to mine the deepest part of our psyches and belief systems to unravel this cord. But it is well worth it. The world needs us. And we need to help.
Where to go from here?